The ego runs on the selection of predictable patterns because the basis of its thought system is judgment whose origin is due to sin, fear and guilt. Judgment is definitely one or the other. As you perceive a brother through judgment, you will project and judge on that brother and soon you perceive the results back. Once those results are perceived, you will use perception repeatedly to project and judge them even more.
Unfortunately, this uses both sides of the ego wrong mind and compounds the initial error until the facts are well hidden. Handing over judgments for correction (forgiveness) stops the cycle.
Holy Relationships:
The ego uses special love and hate relationships, and also specialness (being different), to help keep the illusion of separation going. Usage of these kind of relationships as cause, can be the ego mind as cause; and the result is to continue separation between brothers because they are using the original separation. Remember cause and effect: The mind you choose from, as cause, can lead to the corresponding consequences (effect).
This is simply not about you needing to be alone or avoid relationships in life. It is, however, all about the method that you enter and use them within the mind.
The choice that may set you free would be to choose to have your relationships be Holy Relationships. You must be the person practicing forgiveness in every of your relationships, even though you are the only 1. It is “special” until you transform it “Holy.” To see another as a brother, a prerequisite to going home, is True Perception which shines a light of truth on you both. The ego cannot prevail against Oneness since it is not real.
Form and Content:
A TRAINING COURSE in Miracles (ACIM) is quite clear that form does not matter. You’ll find nothing in ACIM about behavior and when you judge a brother on his or her behavior, this is the same side of the ego mind. They might be acting from the ego “wrong” mind; nevertheless, you are judging from the ego “right” mind. course in miracles To the ego, one judgment is equivalent to any other.
What the Course says is that content matters. Content is the mind. ACIM concerns itself with you knowing that you can choose the Holy Spirit Right Mind as your internal Teacher thereby producing a different cause and effect.
Everything you or another does in form (behavior) does not matter. However listed below are two questions to ask yourself:
When I acted, did I act from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
Is my interpretation of my brother from the Holy Spirit Right Mind? (Content)
You won’t have peace unless you can answer “yes” to both. Choose again if you want to. It is never too late.
There is ONLY 1 of Us:
When you judge a brother, you are utilizing the ego mind as cause for that judgment to become real effect. This is the reason we emphasize that what you see in another has to be forgiven in yourself first. Here’s why: (1) You cannot see fault (judgment) in another unless you chose from that part of the split mind to begin with; (2) You cannot judge what you don’t already believe to be true as it is based on the actually chose from; and (3) Judgment about another is really a statement of the guilt retained in your mind from the original separation because you are choosing to use the ego mind. It is what your location is still holding onto fear and guilt rather than choosing correction (forgiveness) for the truth.
Absolutely anyone who turns up and you with to be able to heal your mind is a gift you may use. Turn it right into a Holy Relationship. This is how you will return your personal mind to God, and how others eventually view it for themselves. Contain the light of forgiveness gives all minds a chance to make a different choice. Judge and they run and hide further into darkness and error.
A Call for Love:
Attack is a conscious mind behavior predicated on projection, judgment and perception. The ego’s point is to protect separate identity and for that reason, all attack is really a call for love, or forgiveness, which is joining. The more determined you are to know the reality about yourself and a brother, the more you’ll choose against the ego’s attacks in favor of correction (forgiveness) from the Right Mind.
Responding with love often means a lot of things and sometimes, it could even mean no response. Other times, you may want a boundary or to take some action. To respond with love, you absolutely must be practicing forgiveness and utilizing the Right Mind to show total attack and judgment. The Holy Spirit will give you a solution if you completely turn to that Right Mind for help. “Completely” is the key word.
Eventually you see no attack (error) occurred which is to know the reality about you and your brother. There is no defense necessary (“defenselessness” on the Split Mind diagram). Once you share your willingness not to see error, you have shared what you need to keep and learn on your own. What you share you find you have.
Sharing:
Sharing means to allow yourself to share with another what you want them to possess. Your only reason for doing this is because it is what you would like to have on your own. You’re teaching them what you would like to be yours. Teaching is instruction of ideas and principles. Do this and you will find you own it because you’ve literally said, “Surrender if you ask me what I’ve taught you.”
